When we think that it’s normal for our children to throw a tantrum, and we give place to it, or placate it, we are giving room for a stronghold or strongholds to take over our children’s lives potentially forever. As a result, violent demonstrations of rage, or frustration, can spew out like a volcano. [TWEET] This behavior can follow the child, and be passed on to future generations indefinitely.
The manifestation of a tantrum is brought on by stress, frustration, selfishness, over-indulgence, rage, offense and the many other strongholds that are attached to it. As adults we can harbor this stronghold just like a child. When the manifestation of this stronghold is revealed in us, and we resist it, it can be defeated. [James 4:7 So place yourselves under God’s authority. Resist the devil, and he will run away from you.]
This stronghold can lie dormant in the thoughts of a host as long as its agenda is being catered to. Stress and offense can trigger it to surface. For example: The stronghold of rage can be suppressed until the catalyst that invited this rage is triggered. In turn, rage left unchecked can trigger the tantrum.
Tantrum strongholds do not work alone. Depending on the type of other strongholds attached, this one could be extremely dangerous and like any dangerous stronghold it is a thief–its purpose is to kill, steal and destroy. [Click to TWEET.]
1. Never give in to, or allow, tantrums in yourself or your children to be pacified. Dealing with this problem quickly and lovingly will give your child the message that it is not wanted. Do not throw a tantrum to end one. [TWEET] Let your discipline be short, firm and precise.
Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is firmly attached to a child’s heart. Spanking will remove it far from him.
Proverbs 13:24 Whoever refuses to spank his son hates him, but whoever loves his son disciplines him from early on.
Colossians 3:21 Fathers, don’t make your children resentful, or they will become discouraged.
Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, don’t make your children bitter about life. Instead, bring them up in Christian discipline and instruction.
2. Recognize what triggers bring on this stronghold and ask the Lord for deliverance.
One of the biggest triggers in life is lust. The world teaches lust. Lust craves–as a result, a lack of sufficient money to fulfil the lust can bring on tantrums, loss, and eventual separation from God’s blessings in your life. Lack of money is the greatest cause of divorce among Christians.
1 Timothy 6:10 Certainly, the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. Some people who have set their hearts on getting rich have wandered away from the Christian faith and have caused themselves a lot of grief.
Philippians 4:13 I can do everything through Christ who strengthens me.
3. Spend time daily in prayer, worship and thanksgiving. Build yourself up with the word of God, the wisdom of God and by submitting to God.
Hebrews 4:12 God’s word is living and active. It is sharper than any two-edged sword and cuts as deep as the place where soul and spirit meet, the place where joints and marrow meet. God’s word judges a person’s thoughts and intentions.
4. Learn to forgive quickly. Forgiveness can free us and others to receive God’s blessings.
1 Peter 3:7 Husbands, in a similar way, live with your wives with understanding since they are weaker than you are. Honor your wives as those who share God’s life-giving kindness so that nothing will interfere with your prayers.
5. Cultivate self-control, one of the fruits of the spirit. Resist the temptation to allow tantrums to enter.
1 Thessalonians 5:20-22 Don’t despise what God has revealed. 21 Instead, test everything. Hold on to what is good. 22 Keep away from every kind of evil.
Written by Christian author, Pola Muzyka.